What do all of the following statements have in common? Wife to Overweight Husband: Are you sure you want to eat that second piece of cake? Mom to Teenage Son: I don’t think you want to wear those stained pants… for the fifth day in a row. Father to daughter: You shouldn’t go to school […]
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Recently, a mom wrote to me regarding her overweight daughter. The following article addresses different ways to deal with the issue while preserving your relationship with your child and your child’s self esteem: Dear Heather, My 9 year old daughter has recently put on a lot of weight. Her clothes don’t fit properly and I’m
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In Part 1 we talked about why black-and-white thinking can be harmful. Part 2 focuses on how you can change old, unhealthy patterns of thinking to healthier, more rational ways. The first step to changing the way you think is to identify when black-and-white thoughts invade your mind. Dr. Phil says, “You can’t change what
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Black and white thinking, also called all-or-nothing thinking, is when an individual perceives situations, events or other people as either all good or all bad. Thinking in absolutes is a lose-lose situation. If one thinks of something as all good, they are bound to get let down and if they are thinking of something as
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Angie is angry with her boyfriend Eddie. They have been living together for 7 years and Eddie is a complete slob. While things have improved somewhat over the years, Eddie still leaves his dirty dishes on the table and his hobbies and projects strewn around the living room. He doesn’t properly close bread bags and
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Dear Heather, My husband and I have been married for 12 years. While he is a good father to our 3 children, he is a very critical husband. He is constantly belittling me, snapping at me and yelling at me. He rarely offers words of affection, compliments or praise. To make matters worse, he is
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If you are finding that oftentimes your discussions or arguments with your partner either go nowhere or escalate to full blown fighting, you may find this article helpful to you. Successful conflict resolution can be achieved using a few simple steps. Let’s begin with the following example: Scenario #1 Man: You are spending way too
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The Effects of the Media on Women’s Priorities and Expectations in Romantic Relationships – Part 2 In Part 1 we spoke about the detrimental ways in which the media influence womens’ expectations when it comes to choosing a romantic partner. Part 2 focuses on what you can do about it. Step 1 to ensuring that
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The Effects of the Media on Women’s Priorities and Expectations in Romantic Relationships – Part 1 Which girl hasn’t watched ‘Cinderella’ as a child and dreamed of the day she’d meet prince charming? Who hasn’t fantasized about said prince sweeping her off her feet, riding together with her into the sunset and living happily ever
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